Religion Press Release Highlights God’s Healing for Life’s Losses

New Book Promises Biblical Hope to the Hurting

God’s Healing for Life’s Losses, a new GriefShare book from BMH Books by counselor, author, and educator Robert W. Kellemen, Ph.D., LCPC, is now off the press and available for shipping.

Subtitled How to Find Hope When You’re Hurting, the book provides real, raw, honest and hopeful conversation about suffering, loss and grief from a Christian perspective.

The author is a seminary graduate as well as a trained counselor and educator, and the text of this small, gift-sized hardback reflects a solid underpinning of biblical truth and Trinitarian theology to its practical advice and keen insights.

The book is endorsed by GriefShare, an organization which conducts Christ-centered grief support groups in thousands of communities. More information about GriefShare is available at GriefShare.org or by calling 800-395-5755.

Dr. Ian Jones, professor of psychology and counseling at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, said, “If you want a thoroughly biblical and intensely honest examination of suffering from someone who has walked the path from ‘hurt to hope in Christ,’ then ‘God’s Healing for Life’s Losses’ is just the book for you.”

Steve Grissom, founder of GriefShare, says, “It’s a treasure, filled with stunning and comforting words about God’s perspective on grief.”

The author, Robert Kellemen, served more than a dozen years as Chair of the Master of Arts in Christian Counseling and Discipleship department at Capital Bible Seminary, where he is now professor-at-large. In his three pastoral ministries, Kellemen has ministered to hundreds of grieving parishioners. He is also founder and CEO of RPM Ministries.

God’s Healing for Life’s Losses is available wherever Christian books are sold in stores, online, or through BMH Books at www.bmhbooks.com or by calling (toll-free) 1-800-348-2756. The book’s ISBN number is 978-0-88469-270-6 and it retails for $14.99.

The author, Robert Kellemen, is available for interviews, personal appearances, speaking engagements, or book signings, and may be contacted by e-mail at bob.kellemen@gmail.com or through his website www.rpmministries.org or by phone at 219-662-8138. Media requests for review copies should be e-mailed to tdwhite@bmhbooks.com.

How to Write Fair and Balanced, Helpful and Engaging Book Reviews

I’ve been reviewing books for over a decade now. In addition to published reviews in journals and magazines, I review online for the Gospel Coalition Reviews, Discerning Reader, RPM Ministries, Everyday Christian, Amazon, CBD, Lunch, and a few more I’ve likely forgotten.

Here are a few quick thoughts on writing fair and balanced, helpful and engaging book reviews.

1. If you totally hate it, don’t review it.

I know that’s not everyone’s policy, but it is mine. You know what your Mom told you, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all…” If I think a book is all bad, I’m not going to write a review. I just don’t have the stomach to be that critical.

2. Think of the author—she or he is a person, too.

As someone who has authored five books, I know what it feels like to “birth” a book. It is one’s creation. So, when you do point out weaknesses, do so graciously, fairly. Quote the author in context. Don’t question the author’s motives (who made book reviewers God?).

3. Contact the author before and after the review.

I’ve started doing this, especially for major reviews (in terms of the significance of the book, the length of the review, where it will be posted, etc.). When I first start reading and reviewing a book, I’ll send my thoughts, impressions, and questions to the author. I’ll ask if I’m “getting it right,” and if they have any response or clarification. After the review is published, I’ll send it to the author and encourage them to engage in an ongoing conversation about the book.

4. Follow the SSWE principle.

I’ve created something of a standard book review format: SSWE. By the way, this doesn’t mean you use this like a straight-jacket. And it doesn’t mean you have these “four sections” of your review. Rather, weave these following four aspects into every review in a conversational style.

S: Summarize the Book:

Help the reader know what in the world the book is about. If the book is in a “technical” field, translate the jargon to the everyday language of the common person.

S: Strengths of the Book:

Every book (I review) has some strengths. Give snippet illustrations of those strengths and highlight how they relate to life and ministry.

W: Weaknesses of the Book:

No book is perfect. But again, when sharing weaknesses, do so fairly, graciously, kindly, and gently.

E: Engage the Book:

This is perhaps the missing ingredient in many/most book reviews. Everyone does summaries, strengths, and weaknesses. But this is not a book report for your middle school teacher. This is a book review for real people who want to know if the book is worth reading. Interact with the book. Write as if you are having a conversation with the author—stretch the author, probe, ponder. Ask questions. Wonder out loud.

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Why You’ll Want to Read God’s Healing for Life’s Losses

Today, May 27, 2010, BMH Books releases my latest book, God’s Healing for Life’s Losses: How to Find Hope When You’re Hurting.

Why This Book at This Time?

With all the books clamoring for your attention, why this book? Here are a few reasons why you’ll want to read God’s Healing for Life’s Losses.

• Read God’s Healing for Life’s Losses because you’re ready for real and raw, honest and hopeful conversation about suffering, loss, and grief—from a Christian perspective.

• Read God’s Healing for Life’s Losses because when life’s losses invade your world you want to learn how to face suffering face-to-face with God.

• Read God’s Healing for Life’s Losses because you’re tired of quick quips (“Just trust God”) and false hopes (“Time heals all wounds”).

• Read God’s Healing for Life’s Losses because you want to find real answers for real people with real struggles.

The Journey from Grief and Hurt to Growth and Healing

Written in a gift book format, God’s Healing for Life’s Losses includes two built-in application/discussion guides making it perfect for individual or group study. Read God’s Healing for Life’s Losses to learn how to journey:

• From Denial to Candor: Blessed Are Those Who Mourn

• From Anger to Complaint: A Lament for Your Loss

• From Bargaining to Crying Out to God: I Surrender All

• From Depression to Comfort: God Comes

• From Regrouping to Waiting: When God Says “Not Yet”

• From Deadening to Wailing: Pregnant with Hope

• From Despairing to Weaving: Spiritual Mathematics

• From Digging Cisterns to Worshipping: Finding God

Why Others Think You Should Read God’s Healing for Life’s Losses

Of course, I’m biased. So…you may want to hear what others are saying about why you’ll want to read God’s Healing for Life’s Losses.

• Read Pastor Steve Viars’ Foreword.

• Read the Endorsement by Steve Grissom, Founder of the International GriefShare network. This is the first book that the internationally-known GriefShare has ever endorsed.

• Read Recommendations from ten leaders in the field of Christian grief recovery.

Read a Free Sample Chapter

I believe so much in the message of God’s Healing for Life’s Losses that I want to give it away. I wish I could give it all away. But at least I can offer you a complimentary read of the Introduction.

Receive Your Autographed Copy

If you’d like an autographed copy of God’s Healing for Life’s Losses at 33% off, visit the RPM Ministries Store.

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When suffering invades your world, how do you face suffering face-to-face with God?

Review of Psychology in the Spirit

Check out my Gospel Coalition Review of John Coe and Todd Hall’s Psychology in the Spirit here.

The Heart of Addiction: A Biblical Perspective

Book Details

• Author: Mark E. Shaw

• Publisher: Focus Publishing (2008)

• Category: Biblical Counseling, Ministry, Church

Reviewed By: Bob Kellemen, Ph.D., LCPC, Author of Soul Physicians, Spiritual Friends, Beyond the Suffering, Sacred Friendships, and God’s Healing for Life’s Losses. Find all of Bob’s book reviews, blogs, and free resources at www.rpmministries.org.

Recommended: The Heart of Addiction is an increasingly rare book—one that addresses a specific life issue in a biblical, deep, practical, wise way. Mark Shaw combines the sufficiency of Scripture (theology for life) with the relevancy of Scripture (principles of progressive sanctification) in a way that offers hope and help to those experiencing habitual sin problems.

Review: God’s Way to Victory Over Habitual Sin

Dr. Mark Shaw brings an impressive résumé uniquely suited for a biblical approach to addictions. He holds biblical counseling certification with the National Association of Nouthetic Counselors (NANC), is a certified Master’s Level Addiction Professional (MLAP), as well as being a Sr. Pastor.

A Theology of Habitual Sin

Shaw eschews the terminology of “addiction” and seeks to get at the “heart of addiction” by conceptualizing it as a “life-dominating and life-devastating sin problem.” He sees “addiction” ultimately as a “worship disorder.” Further, Shaw takes issue with the common medical model approach that links “addictions” to the “disease model.”

That being said, Shaw is not simplistic in his approach. He recognizes that the body can respond to a sin problem so that over time actions associated with addiction become habitual and extremely difficult to overcome. This is a very useful “balance” missed by some.

In fact, he’s more than balanced. Shaw is comprehensive. He acknowledges that even after people have initially overcome the physical portion of addiction:

• Physically, they may still experience real cravings.

• Mentally, they may always battle to take their thoughts captive to Christ.

• Emotionally, they may struggle with feelings that will tempt them to want to return to the addiction for an escape.

• Spiritually, they may experience days when they wonder if God has forgotten them.

Rejecting the world’s definitions of addiction, Shaw then develops a concise biblical description. “Physical addiction occurs when you repeatedly satisfy a natural appetite and desire with a temporary pleasure until you become the servant of the temporary object of pleasure rather than its master” (p. 27). Addictions are not “compulsions” for Shaw, but rather “persistent habitual choices.”

Shaw wisely addresses habitual sin from the threefold biblical plotline of Creation, Fall, Redemption. Thus he embeds his theology of habitual sin in the context of God’s original design for the soul, sin’s depravity, and Christ’s final solution for and victory over all sin—including “addictive sins.”

Perhaps the most insightful and needful chapter is where Shaw addresses the physical components of addiction (Chapter 9). Unfortunately, many biblical counselors seem to skip or minimize this important area. Shaw not only tackles it, he nails it. He carefully traces what I might call a “theology of desire” (he calls it a theology of appetite). He assists readers to see the purpose for God-given desires, appetites, and affections, while also mapping where they can go sinfully wrong and how they can become habitually sinful.

There is much to appreciate in Shaw’s theological development. There were two areas, though, where Shaw could have engaged the theological issues a bit deeper. First, Shaw assumes that the “old nature” or “old man” still resides in the believer, which is a common enough belief. However, it would have been good in a book of this depth to address or acknowledge, at least briefly, the competing view. Namely, while the believer is not perfect this side of heaven, and while the believer does battle the world, the flesh, and the devil, the old nature or old man has truly been crucified with Christ. There are implicational differences that derive out of these two theological positions.

Second, while Shaw does develop a nuanced perspective on addiction, it might have been helpful for him to grapple with concepts such as “enslavement” and “mastery” (2 Peter 2:19). And the powerful imagery where Peter speaks of one who knows the Lord as Savior (2 Peter 2:20) as “a dog returns to its vomit” (2 Peter 2:22). Peter (and at times Paul) seems to use terms like these to indicate a depth of entanglement of sin akin to, but different from, “addiction.” I expected to read Shaw engaging passages like these, but did not. To his credit, he did address other complex issues such as lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes, the pride of life, and a seared conscience.

A Methodology of Victory Over Habitual Sin

Of course, great theology is truly great because it leads to relevant principles and practices for spiritual growth. Shaw so seamlessly blends “theology” and “methodology” that you can’t find where one ends and the other begins (which is very good). For instance, in Chapter 10, he discusses idolatry using the practical and pictorial imagery of the “go button” and the “stop button.” “Go button pushers” excessively satisfy their natural appetites, so they must guard their hearts when doing anything pleasurable. This is not radical abstention, but wise moderation always with the ultimate goal of glorifying God rather than loving pleasure.

A large part of Shaw’s “methodology” rightly focuses on renewed thinking leading to renewed emotions. Fortunately, in his skillful hands this is not some Christianized version of rational-emotive therapy. Rather, Shaw focuses his readers on renewing their thinking in the context of biblical reality as portrayed in Scripture.

He makes this very practical by addressing the common “motivating factor” for many addictive behaviors: escaping emotional pain. We don’t deny our emotional pain. Rather, for Shaw we take that emotional pain to Christ and to His Word. We find joy even when we can’t find relief.

This become even more practical in Chapter 12 where Shaw dissects specific emotions and prescribes biblical principles for addressing them in spiritually healthy ways. He describes how we can respond to bitterness, guilt, discontentment, loneliness, depression, and despair in ways that lead us toward God rather than toward god-substitutes.

The actual “methodology” portion of the book begins with Chapter 13 (but obviously starts sooner in Shaw’s skillful application of theology). Shaw uses the biblical motif of put off and put on. With some writers, this becomes rather “behavioralistic.” Not with Shaw. He talks about putting off the depths of sin, including sin’s denial and self-deception.

He then talks about putting on, again in a heart-centric way. Here (Chapter 17) Shaw again highlights renewing the mind. He avoids generic language, instead focusing on idiosyncratic renewal, the battle for the mind, how to fight cravings, and how to resist the devil’s temptation. He then moves toward putting on right actions—based upon renewed beliefs.

Thus Shaw includes specific chapters on putting off and putting on beliefs, actions, and emotions. He writes specifically about putting off sinful idols of the heart. However, this excellent work could have benefitted from specific sections about putting on a renewed, grace-oriented, love relationship with God in Christ. It certainly was implied. And it certainly is contained in the various “heart prayers” at the end of each chapter. However, specific chapters on returning to God “the Spring of Living Water” would seem central in a book on putting off sinful addictions and putting on ongoing spiritual affections. Since addiction is a “worship disorder,” I would have liked to have seen more on moving from the idolatry of addiction to the worship of God through putting on renewed relational/spiritual affections, passions, and desires. It’s there…it just could have been highlighted more.

Shaw concludes with Appendixes A to K which each provide very practical tools. Taken together, these seventeen chapters and eleven appendixes provide a wealth of authoritative, relevant wisdom. The Heart of Addiction: A Biblical Perspective will prove extremely helpful for pastors, counselors, and spiritual friends, and for the individual seeking ongoing victory over habituated sin.

Free Copies for Book Reviewers, Blog Reviewers, Radio Interviewers

My new book, God’s Healing for Life’s Losses: How to Find Hope When You’re Hurting, will be released in April 2010 by BMH Books. To read a free sample selection, please visit here.

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Why This Book?

Readers quickly grow weary of Christian books that pretend. They’re tired of Christian counselors and well-meaning friends who dispense far too much “happiness all the time, wonderful peace of mind.” They’re also gravely disappointed when the answers to their questions about suffering reflect more of the wisdom of the world than of the truth of God’s Word.

There has to be a better way.

Christians long for an approach that faces suffering honestly and engages sufferers passionately—all in the context of presenting truth biblically and relevantly. We need to be able to face life’s losses in the context of God’s healing. Jesus did. “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33).

Real Hope for Real People

God’s Healing for Life’s Losses offers no pabulum, trite platitudes, false promises, pretending, or “easy steps.” It is real and raw as it enters into the abyss of suffering and empathizes with the gravity of grinding affliction. And, like the Apostle Paul, it deals simultaneously with grieving and hoping (1 Thessalonians 4:13).

We live in a fallen world and it often falls on us. When it does, when the weight of the world crushes us, squeezes the life out of us, we need hope. New life. A resuscitated heart. A resurrected life with resurrected hope. God’s healing path is a personal journey.

I use God’s Word as the sufferers GPS: God’s Positioning System. I trace God’s pathway through grief to growth so that readers learn how to face their suffering face-to-face with God.

A Gift Book

Written in “gift book” format for the person facing suffering, God’s Healing for Life’s Losses includes two built-in application/discussion guides (including a journal section). Perfect for individual or group use, persons suffering any type of life loss (job loss, illness, divorce, church conflict, the empty nest, death of a loved one) will benefit from the real-life wisdom they discover in God’s Healing for Life’s Losses.

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In your losses, where have you found hope and healing?